You have no control over what other people say or do, so stop trying to control them. If you disagree with something, don’t agree because of social norms. You can unplug dysfunction with one simple word, NO. It’s direct. It’s honest.
Your willingness to conform has been your dysfunction. Your desire to fit in and be liked has alienated you from yourself. The more you pretend to be who others expect you to be, the more disconnected you become. The dysfunction ends here.
People may not warm up to your resistance, but they’ll come around. When you show up as your authentic self, you can just be who you are and people will love you. Even more than that, you can get back to the business of having a loving, respectful, and functional relationship…with yourself.